“I could see him getting more heated, he was upset with me about some of the questions — that’s OK — he was a little irritated, and that’s OK,” she said of what was going through her mind during the interview. “So, when I see Robert [Kelly] getting really upset, and he stands out of his seat, my initial reaction was, ‘Oh God, please don’t leave, please don’t leave.'”
And if that wasn’t enough, she goes on to say, “I never thought he was going to hurt me or hit me.” Classic Domestic Violence victim lines.
If you want to know how women end up in abusive relationships, Gayle King Just epitomized how a woman can be sucked into abuse without even realizing it.
What was going through Gayle’s mind is exactly what goes through the minds of most victimized women when a man is towering over her with rage even if not directed towards her. “He was upset with me about some of the questions – that’s OK.” She’s in control because she’s not afraid but now knows what not to say/do next time.
Just like the typical ideology of domestic violence victims, Gayle is taking the blame for the abuser’s behavior. It’s also shocking that all her colleagues overlooked this violent display of aggression by an accused abuser, then commending Gayle for withstanding such behavior to continue the interview on so-called “false” allegations of abuse–despite the evidence she’d just witnessed.
Every talk show about domestic violence questions why a woman allows herself to stay or get involved with abusive men; surely there were early signs, right? This sign, displayed in front of a national audience, was as clear as day yet everyone acted as if something very wrong hadn’t just happened. The honest answer to that question plays out the very same way it did for Gale while it was happening; by blaming herself for upsetting him, and hoping he won’t leave because of it.
If never before, Gayle now has firsthand experience of the denial victimized women go through before one day waking up to realize they are victims. Hopefully, she and all the celebrity advocates who are patting her back will learn from this excellent example–how an abuser draws in his victims and why his victims usually do whatever it takes to avoid “accidentally” getting hit.
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